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July 9, 2018

INDEPENDENCE & GROWING OLD

  • July 9, 2018
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I believe that many of us like the idea of being self sufficient and independent to what ever extent we can, and this is particularly true as we age. At my age of 84 with a few physical problems I can speak with authority about this. I sincerely believe that my basic computer knowledge and use along with a I Phone has enabled me to maintain my independence far better than most of my peer group and maintain a good quality of life. No one had to force me to give up driving two years ago, I made that decision my self and sold my car in 24 hours for a good price and then called and cancelled my auto insurance and started using UBER. I can go where ever I want when ever I want and not be DEPENDENT on anyone and believe it or not the cost of the 175 odd UBER TRIPS over the past two years is about equal to what I was paying for my auto insurance. I live in a one bedroom, living room, one bath, kitchenette apartment at a quality ASSISTED LIVING facility. Prior to voluntarily re-locating to this facility I lived in a two bedroom two bath apartment and did all my own cooking and cleaning. I have access to three Gourmet quality meals per day in a lovely dining room and only keep my favorite wines and snacks in my kitchenette. I receive several items each week delivered to my door via AMAZON PRIME. They are items that I could purchase locally, but why? A good price and convenience via AMAZON is hard to beat.
Looking at my fellow residents is what prompted me to write this SMUG thread because I see how dependent many of them are on care takers, friends and family for many things they could do for them selves IF they ONLY had some level of tech knowledge.
I realize that there may be a time that I will need all the features and services of ASSISTED LIVING, but as long as I can still boogie around with my walker, feed, bathe and dress myself I will remain independent.

 

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    Contributor ⭐
    October 18, 2018

    I feel the same way.  I live in an independent living apartment building but because a lot of the people who live here came directly from the hospital when they moved in, we ended up getting a nursing office that offers assistance with household chores but we are not an assisted living facility.  If we have surgery, they can help to set up things for when we return home.  It is great to have when you need it but I have to say that I try not to have them do it for me but when I have things I cannot do like reach my top shelves, it is great.  I still do my own housework and laundry and do not want to have to be at home for someone else to do it for me. lol.  I like my independence.

    gm5271
    Community Champion ⭐
    March 25, 2019

    Wow wow

    I so needed this

    Wow What great examples and encouragement you all are

    I'm soon to be 61 so as another said i'm a baby senior ....but i've really struggled to fight Isolation and loneliness & depression these last 5 years with all the losses that have happened ....BUT 

    You all INSPIRE me Thanks so much for sharing and I'm so grateful to have found this thread tonight....

    Thanks a million!

    This community has been/ is a lifesaver 

    Have a beautiful week You all rock..... I'm still kicking & trying & as another said.... it's not over till it's over.... Yippie 

    Ginger : )

    AARPLynne
    Conversationalist ⭐⭐
    March 27, 2019

    Thank you for your contribution, Ginger (@gm5271), we're so glad you're here!!

    Contributor ⭐
    December 7, 2022

    I really enjoyed your article Lon.  I am now 90 and know that one day I will need some kind of assisted living.  Right now I still live in my own house, shop and prepare my own food and do two miles on my Nordic Track every day.  

    I am curious as to why you gave up your driving license.  I still drive but not to too many places.  For instance, the Shop-Rite, Walmart's, the local post office, drug store, etc.  I cook my own meals and enjoy them.  I am sort of a health food person.  I do not use salt or sugar in anything and take lots of vitamins.  I do two miles on my NordicTrack every day.  I do get to church every Sunday and thank God for all my blessings.  I do have family close by and visit them often.  I am realistic enough to know that I too will need some kind of assistance soon but until that time I like being able to do what I want when I want.

    Community Manager
    December 18, 2022

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    Community Champion ⭐
    December 18, 2022

    "...what age you have to turn your driver's license in?"?  I'm surprised you'd ask such a question. Aren't older people more concerned about ageism? To me, that's like asking, "At what age do you have to turn in your tree climbing license?". I'd say at whatever age you can't do it anymore. It ought to be more of a qualified/competent thing.

    Jerseystorm
    Contributor ⭐⭐
    December 31, 2022

    Kudos to you!  You are amazing and an inspiration to all of us "baby seniors"!

     

    Barbara

    Community Champion ⭐
    March 10, 2023

    I love your expression "baby senior"!!! I don't know why but I couldn't wait to turn 70, which is my age now!

    schlomo
    Contributor ⭐
    February 24, 2023

    You are my hero! Your upbeat attitude is life enhancing.

    schlomo
    Community Champion ⭐
    March 8, 2023

    God bless you!!! I'm not quite your age yet but I pray I can manage alone and not be a burden to my family.  I love your contagious spirit!!!

    Contributor ⭐
    March 10, 2023

    Good for you!!! My mother is 90 and she still drives. You can't tell her nothing. She has a walker and a cane. I am 69 soon to be 70 and I plan to keep it moving too. The number doesn't define you it's your attitude. I walk (up to 3 miles), I dance constantly and I try to do stuff daily. What age has to do with it.........NOTHING!!!    KEEP IT MOVING AND RIDE IT TIL THE WHEELS FALL OFF!!!